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Post by Stopsegregationofmen on Apr 11, 2022 22:10:29 GMT
"One of the few people who understood him was Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, the author of a forthcoming ebook Say Goodbye to Crazy: How to Rid Yourself of that Crazy Ex and Restore Sanity to Your Life. Dr. Palmatier runs a website, Shrink4Men.com. She’s one of the few people in the mental health field talking about the emotional abuse of men. In one post on her blog, Palmatier itemized the ten behaviors characteristic of emotionally abusive women: Bullying Unreasonable expectations Verbal attacks Gaslighting (lying and then claiming he is crazy) Unpredictable responses Constant chaos Emotional blackmail Rejection Withholding affection and sex Isolating The result? You’re constantly on edge, walking on eggshells, and waiting for the other shoe to drop. This is a trauma response. You’re being traumatized by her behavior. Because you can’t predict her responses, you become hyper vigilant to any change in her mood or potential outburst, which leaves you in a perpetual state of anxiety and possibly fear. It’s a healthy sign to be afraid of this behavior. It’s scary. Don’t feel ashamed to admit it". More in link www.intellectualtakeout.org/blog/women-who-emotionally-abuse-men/?fbclid=IwAR3GQc5FMg8mBaH5u_1CqHTkRPouPORKY9no3dhXpYS6xT3JA0DzFV3Z4yA#men #women #equal #father #discriminationmen #discrimination #segregation #falseaccusations #domesticviolence #childsupport #equalparenting #parentalalienation #divorce #fraud #falseaccusationsrape #fatherless #childsharecustody #fahtermatter #law #brokenlaw #familylaw #court #depression, #depressionafterdivorce #Divorce #effectsofdivorce #health #masculinity #mentalhealth #suicidal #suicide #equalpay #equalwork #menrights #humanrights
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Post by Stopsegregationofmen on Apr 11, 2022 22:13:58 GMT
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Post by Stopsegregationofmen on Apr 16, 2022 13:39:16 GMT
Despite the fact that women control men, women's organizations say the opposite is true. Controlling is violence (common for women) and it is violence like any other because it causes enormous damage to a man. Most men aren't even aware that they are being controlled by women. We recommend this article to everyone, that every man is aware of and uses the advice given there to counter this violence. Remember that the legal systems of most countries in the world help women control men and reward them for such violence against men. It's time to change people's awareness of the negative effects of such violence against men. "How to Handle a Controlling Woman In most relationships, it’s women who are the leaders. They take charge and subjugate men by taking the judge role in the relationship. What does that mean? It means that they take control of the frame of reference on what’s good or wrong, what’s proper and improper, and on what are the standards of behavior. Men rarely challenge her frame, which basically means: they end up playing by her rules. That’s from a big picture perspective, but the big picture is not the focus of this topic. The practical side is the focus of this topic. And to enforce her frame of reference in the day to day life, she uses the following compliance tools: Drama & nagging (set the priorities of what’s important) Blaming & criticism (browbeats him on the defensive) Shaming (the compliance superpower) With these three tools she becomes the relationship leader, which allows her to task him (so he can provide for her and make her happy)" More in link warlordblog.com.ng/how-to-handle-a-controlling-woman/?fbclid=IwAR3TRv1ow6_SfY87-mk2_LqGbSfpL3I20B2F0Ip9_Pi5IPFJT1oi7V5O9oc#men #women #equal #father #discriminationmen #discrimination #segregation #falseaccusations #domesticviolence #childsupport #equalparenting #parentalalienation #divorce #fraud #falseaccusationsrape #fatherless #childsharecustody #fahtermatter #law #brokenlaw #familylaw #court #depression, #depressionafterdivorce #Divorce #effectsofdivorce #health #masculinity #mentalhealth #suicidal #suicide #equalpay #equalwork #menrights #humanrights
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Post by Stopsegregationofmen on May 19, 2022 20:32:25 GMT
#men #women #equal #father #discriminationmen #discrimination #segregation #falseaccusations #domesticviolence #childsupport #equalparenting #parentalalienation #divorce #fraud #falseaccusationsrape #fatherless #childsharecustody #fahtermatter #law #brokenlaw #familylaw #court #depression, #depressionafterdivorce #Divorce #effectsofdivorce #health #masculinity #mentalhealth #suicidal #suicide #equalpay #equalwork #menrights #humanrights
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Post by Stopsegregationofmen on May 31, 2022 22:58:23 GMT
A compendium of knowledge about domestic violence that men are going through. “Switching of the violence relationship” refers to when a female perpetrator of domestic violence against a man claims to be the victim, knowing she will be believed Find out how Norway is ahead of many countries in helping male victims of domestic abuse "Key points from the article Research into men’s experiences of partner violence reveals stories that challenge established discourses. The information in this article relates to an interview study with 28 males and is part of a wider three-part study of violence against men in intimate relationships in Norway. The men in this study feared for their lives and suffered a lowering of their living standards. Immigrant men suffered the additional fears of being thrown out of Norway. “Switching of the violence relationship” referred to the significant problem of the violent female partners falsely claiming to be the victims rather than the perpetrators. The accepted social discourse made it easy for women to be believed in these situations, leaving their male victims feeling doubly helpless. Despite the violence they are subjected to, the men expressed a great deal of care and love for their violent partners, and tried to understand and protect them. For example, they were reluctant - for the sake of their partners - to report the violence to the police. This caring attitude made it more difficult for men to seek help and look after themselves. The men had been threatened with being deprived of contact with their children, which was another reason they did not report the violence to the police. Andreas’s financial situation deteriorated badly after he went through the courts about his contact rights. He did not have the resources to hire a lawyer to continue the case further in the judicial system. Tor went to court several times about contact, but lost. He found, as did other men in the sample, that he was not believed or seen as able to care adequately for his child. When he first met his ex-wife he had a good job and a good income and well-ordered finances. After a tumultuous conflict and court case, which resulted in his wife being awarded full parental control, he had a breakdown, lost control at work and went onto disability benefits. He says that his life was destroyed after he lost contact with his daughter. We have also found a distinctive form of violence to which men are subjected, namely what we have termed the “switching of the violence relationship”. It is a significant problem for men that their violent female partners are in a position to turn reality on its head and tell everyone that they are the victims of violence. This is because the accepted social discourse makes it easy for women to be believed when it comes to their being the victims of violence in intimate relationships, while men are generally not believed. In such cases this makes the men feel doubly helpless. They themselves internalise this understanding, and feel that nothing can help them, because “no one will believe me anyway”. More in link www.centreformalepsychology.com/male-psychology-magazine-listings/consequences-of-intimate-partner-violence-for-male-victims-findings-from-norway?fbclid=IwAR1yv0qt3UEYu1LiN72DuuZZ72tFEZKENYo-QFtoq3tsliaWyxLuk9zD_vk#men #women #equal #father #discriminationmen #discrimination #segregation #falseaccusations #domesticviolence #childsupport #equalparenting #parentalalienation #divorce #fraud #falseaccusationsrape #fatherless #childsharecustody #fahtermatter #law #brokenlaw #familylaw #court #depression, #depressionafterdivorce #Divorce #effectsofdivorce #health #masculinity #mentalhealth #suicidal #suicide #equalpay #equalwork #menrights #humanrights
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Post by Stopsegregationofmen on Jun 14, 2022 20:43:27 GMT
Many men after the Depp v Heard trial start talking about what happened to them. "My ex-partner was nearly perfect on paper. Unlike me, she looked after herself physically and kept an immaculate home. Educated, funny, smart, she was truly a beautiful woman, at least on the outside. But the Johnny Depp-Amber Heard trial reminded me of the truth about her that I hadn’t known before we wed in the early 2000s – her burning inner rage". Here this man tells what his partner was doing, which was considered by everyone outside to be perfect. "My ex-partner called me a ‘c***’ on a regular basis, threw things at me and even occasionally hit me". "I never did any of those things to her and I don’t want to go into fine detail because it is so painful to recall. " More in link metro.co.uk/2022/06/09/my-family-didnt-believe-i-was-a-domestic-abuse-victim-16796269/?fbclid=IwAR3Gnba3hivmkTE5CgFDu85QdaRJhalW0BAcvdynYbmwv3H6wLTbKJAiF0I#men #women #equal #father #discriminationmen #discrimination #segregation #falseaccusations #domesticviolence #childsupport #equalparenting #parentalalienation #divorce #fraud #falseaccusationsrape #fatherless #childsharecustody #fahtermatter #law #brokenlaw #familylaw #court #depression, #depressionafterdivorce #Divorce #effectsofdivorce #health #masculinity #mentalhealth #suicidal #suicide #equalpay #equalwork #menrights #humanrights
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Post by Stopsegregationofmen on Jul 18, 2022 20:33:00 GMT
Violence & abuse perpetrated by women is just as important to address as violence & abuse perpetrated by men Male victims matter just as much as female victims More in linkhttps://www.pressreader.com/uk/the-courier-advertiser-angus-and-the-mearns-edition/20220613/281646783795768 #men #women #equal #father #discriminationmen #discrimination #segregation #falseaccusations #domesticviolence #childsupport #equalparenting #parentalalienation #divorce #fraud #falseaccusationsrape #fatherless #childsharecustody #fahtermatter #law #brokenlaw #familylaw #court #depression, #depressionafterdivorce #Divorce #effectsofdivorce #health #masculinity #mentalhealth #suicidal #suicide #equalpay #equalwork #menrights #humanright
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Post by Stopsegregationofmen on Aug 6, 2022 20:22:56 GMT
Descriptive form by gender of perpetrators in the number of Australian homicide victims this year: The female perpetrators killed: 14 children, 1 woman, 6 men = 21 victims Male perpetrators killed: 6 children, 14 women, 1 man = 21 victims Violence has no gender !!! www.facebook.com/domesticviolenceawarenessaustralia/photos/a.1700359836858499/3337192439841889/#men #women #equal #father #discriminationmen #discrimination #segregation #falseaccusations #domesticviolence #childsupport #equalparenting #parentalalienation #divorce #fraud #falseaccusationsrape #fatherless #childsharecustody #fahtermatter #law #brokenlaw #familylaw #court #depression, #depressionafterdivorce #Divorce #effectsofdivorce #health #masculinity #mentalhealth #suicidal #suicide #equalpay #equalwork #menrights #humanrights
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Post by Stopsegregationofmen on Sept 4, 2022 21:33:44 GMT
"Twenty Voices is based on the work of Dr Elizabeth (Liz) Bates from the University of Cumbria, a trustee of the ManKind Initiative. All the voices included are those of male volunteers at the University of Cumbria who are reading out the actual and authentic comments provided by those male victims of domestic abuse who responded to a survey she ran during 2017". " “ ...in addition, male victims have unique experiences in that their female abusers are able to use a system that is designed to aide female victims of domestic violence. Thus, some female perpetrators of IPV manipulate their husbands because they know that the system is designed without the abused male’s experiences in mind, and that more often than not people will not believe or take seriously these men’s victimisation.” Hines et al., (2007)". How women use Coercive Control: - Women’s use of control - Tilbook et al. (2010) found high rates of legal and administrative aggression by women who control - This is often a factor preventing men leaving, because of the fear of losing their children (Hines & Douglas, 2010). - Hines, Brown and Dunning (2007) 50.3% “manipulating the system” - Chivalry – condemnation of violence against women, but not violence against men More in link elizabethbates.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/Male-Psychology-conference-2019-to-share.pdf#men #women #equal #father #discriminationmen #discrimination #segregation #falseaccusations #domesticviolence #childsupport #equalparenting #parentalalienation #divorce #fraud #falseaccusationsrape #fatherless #childsharecustody #fahtermatter #law #brokenlaw #familylaw #court #depression, #depressionafterdivorce #Divorce #effectsofdivorce #health #masculinity #mentalhealth #suicidal #suicide #equalpay #equalwork #menrights #humanrights
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Post by Stopsegregationofmen on Oct 20, 2022 21:14:35 GMT
Irish male aid organization Men's Aid has posted real stories about the male victims they helped on its website. One of such stories below: "Dear Men's Aid, In January of this year I heard you speak on radio and saw a few articles in the Irish Examiner, Independent and then Image magazine. I was so glad to see and read that someone is highlighting the tragedy of abused husbands by their wives. A very dear relative of mine, a professional man, was both psychologically and physically battered by his wife. He was a gentle man, a tall ‘giant’ but a gentle giant, a wonderful father, husband, son and neighbour to many. He never had a bad word to say about anyone. He was simply devastated by all the abuse from the brute of a woman he married. He stayed for as long as he could to protect his children and very often took the brunt of her anger while standing in front of the children to protect them. As a result of all the horrific abuse and violence and the constant berating, undermining, coercive behaviours he became depressed and sadly died by drowning a few years ago. Please Men’s Aid, keep up your life saving work". More in link www.mensaid.ie/mens-stories/#men #women #equal #father #discriminationmen #discrimination #segregation #falseaccusations #domesticviolence #childsupport #equalparenting #parentalalienation #divorce #fraud #falseaccusationsrape #fatherless #childsharecustody #fahtermatter #law #brokenlaw #familylaw #court #depression, #depressionafterdivorce #Divorce #effectsofdivorce #health #masculinity #mentalhealth #suicidal #suicide #equalpay #equalwork #menrights #humanrights
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Post by Stopsegregationofmen on Nov 28, 2022 21:42:46 GMT
This article contains true stories of men who have been victims of domestic violence. " A recurring feature in the stories of men who have experienced intimate partner violence from women is that they regularly experience feelings of guilt without knowing quite why. Most men in the study were subject to intimate terrorism. These acts of violence are part of a pattern that governs the relationship comprising of a combination of aggressive and controlling behaviours, threats, put-downs and other forms of psychological terror combined with various forms of physical violence and, in some cases, sexual violence. Three of the men in this sample have experienced violence that has come and gone in periods, and can be characterised as situational couple violence. Interviews indicated that it was not the fear of violence but the fear of psychologically controlling behaviour, fear of trouble, harassment and of losing contact with children that stopped men being free to live their lives". More in link www.centreformalepsychology.com/male-psychology-magazine-listings/mens-experience-of-intimate-partner-violence-findings-from-norway#men #women #equal #father #discriminationmen #discrimination #segregation #falseaccusations #domesticviolence #childsupport #equalparenting #parentalalienation #divorce #fraud #falseaccusationsrape #fatherless #childsharecustody #fahtermatter #law #brokenlaw #familylaw #court #depression, #depressionafterdivorce #Divorce #effectsofdivorce #health #masculinity #mentalhealth #suicidal #suicide #equalpay #equalwork #menrights #humanrights
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Post by Stopsegregationofmen on Dec 15, 2022 22:58:50 GMT
Undoubtedly, judges are needed in courts who are resistant to female manipulation. "A former nurse who murdered one son and tried to kill another has been told she will spend the next 20 years of her life in jail before being considered for release. Prior to stabbing both her young sons in a bedroom, the defendant phoned her partner at work around 8.50am and asked if they could talk. He said he was busy and they would talk later, but she texted him again shortly afterwards and said 'I'm sorry.' Six minutes later, she sent another text to her partner saying 'I've killed the boys. I'm dying.' During yesterday's sentencing, Judge Smyth made it clear that despite the defendant's claims that she was a victim in an abusive relationship, there was an "abundance of evidence" that it was in fact the defendant who "exercised coercion and control" in the relationship. Whilst in the secure psychiatric unit, the defendant questioned other patients about symptoms of mental illness then proceeded to fabricate psychotic symptoms - and at one point claiming aliens had taken her children via a portal." More in link www.irishnews.com/news/northernirelandnews/2022/12/13/news/co_antrim_woman_42_sentenced_to_20_years_minimum_for_stabbing_her_children-2941780/#men #women #equal #father #discriminationmen #discrimination #segregation #falseaccusations #domesticviolence #childsupport #equalparenting #parentalalienation #divorce #fraud #falseaccusationsrape #fatherless #childsharecustody #fahtermatter #law #brokenlaw #familylaw #court #depression, #depressionafterdivorce #Divorce #effectsofdivorce #health #masculinity #mentalhealth #suicidal #suicide #equalpay #equalwork #menrights #humanrights
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Post by Stopsegregationofmen on Dec 19, 2022 22:10:50 GMT
Bad women have tremendous ability to control men, combined with manipulation and social consent to such acts, many men lose their health, access to children and take their own lives. It's good that someone has paid attention to this huge social problem. "Men are sometimes forced to stay in abusive relationships because their partner has threatened to make false allegations against them if they leave, a domestic abuse charity has said. Threats can include wrongfully accusing them of child abuse or domestic violence, according to Rhonda Lusty from the Men's Advisory Project. She said innocent men fear allegations would be believed automatically due societal attitudes to domestic abuse. Ms Lusty also urged the public to recognise the signs of escalating abuse, particularly in male victims. "All of this really insidious control often is ignored as sort of low-lying or something they can cope with", she said. "It's almost - they don't know how deep they're in until that's happened. "Bit by bit, the person is isolated and bit by bit, they become more and more dependent on the perpetrator and the perpetrator's changing set of rules." Ms Lusty said the police were well trained to deal with coercive control. "As we speak more about it, people will understand more," she added" More in link www.bbc.com/news/uk-northern-ireland-63969613Bad women have tremendous ability to control men, combined with manipulation and social consent to such acts, many men lose their health, access to children and take their own lives. It's good that someone has paid attention to this huge social problem.
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Post by Stopsegregationofmen on Mar 2, 2023 20:15:37 GMT
fb.watch/iZYzQ-Q-aL/?mibextid=NnVzG8#men #women #equal #father #discriminationmen #discrimination #segregation #falseaccusations #domesticviolence #childsupport #equalparenting #parentalalienation #divorce #fraud #falseaccusationsrape #fatherless #childsharecustody #fahtermatter #law #brokenlaw #familylaw #court #depression, #depressionafterdivorce #Divorce #effectsofdivorce #health #masculinity #mentalhealth #suicidal #suicide #equalpay #equalwork #menrights #humanrights
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Post by Stopsegregationofmen on Mar 14, 2023 21:24:21 GMT
Male victims of domestic violence find it especially difficult to seek help due to the fact that they are usually not taken seriously or are ashamed to talk about it. You will notice how she takes advantage of the situation, that she knows exactly that the male victim will not get help, and what's more, she can falsely accuse him of violence and no one will believe him. "Sheree had always wanted three children and, once she was born, that's when, what I now know they call, 'the discard phase' began,' says Richard, who has read goodness knows how many articles about narcissistic behaviour. 'She wanted the house, wanted the kids and wanted me to pay maintenance. She'd whisper in my ear, 'You'll never win. Watch this.' She'd open the bedroom window and shout, 'Richard stop it. You're hurting me. Don't hit me.' Then, she'd shut the window and say, 'I told you you'll never beat me. I'm much cleverer than you.' The violence and drinking escalated. For days on end, Sheree would lie on the sofa drinking as much as three bottles of wine a day. At 3am, she would slap Richard awake and make him drive to the garage to get more.". More in link www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-11846275/Man-reveals-wore-make-hide-bruises-abuse-norm-marriage.html#men #women #equal #father #discriminationmen #discrimination #segregation #falseaccusations #domesticviolence #childsupport #equalparenting #parentalalienation #divorce #fraud #falseaccusationsrape #fatherless #childsharecustody #fahtermatter #law #brokenlaw #familylaw #court #depression, #depressionafterdivorce #Divorce #effectsofdivorce #health #masculinity #mentalhealth #suicidal #suicide #equalpay #equalwork #menrights #humanrights
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